Do I Like Him? Quiz for When You Honestly Can’t Tell
Not sure how you feel? This do I like him quiz asks eight honest questions about how you act around him, then tells you if it's a real crush, a friendship or boredom.
Quiz questions
1. His name pops up on your phone. What happens?
2. How often do you think about him when he's not around?
3. He mentions he went on a date with someone else. You feel...
4. What do you like most about him?
5. Imagine the two of you a year from now.
6. You've had a great day. Who do you want to tell first?
7. How do you act when you know you'll see him?
8. If he told you tomorrow that he likes you, you'd feel...
All possible results
Your result
Yes, you like him
This is a real crush. You already knew.
- Butterflies
- Thinking about him a lot
- You care what happens next
You like him, and not in a small way. You notice particular things about him, you want to tell him your news first, and the idea of him with someone else stings. Those are the signs that it's about him as a person and not just about having someone.
What you do with that is up to you. You don't have to make a speech. Spending a bit more time together and paying attention to how he treats you will tell you a lot. If he's kind, curious about you and consistent, that's worth being brave for.
Your result
You like the attention
You may like being liked more than you like him.
- Enjoy the texts
- Hazy about him as a person
- Feelings rise when you're bored
There's nothing wrong with enjoying it when someone is interested in you. It feels good. But look at your answers: what you like most is the attention, and when you picture the future the boyfriend part is clear and his face isn't.
That usually means you want closeness in general, and he happens to be nearby. Ask yourself one question: if he stopped texting and somebody else started, would you miss him or just the messages? Be kind to him while you work that out.
Your result
You like him as a friend
Real affection, no butterflies.
- Comfortable together
- No jealousy
- You'd protect the friendship
You're fond of him. He's easy company, you laugh a lot, and you'd be sad to lose him. But you don't get nervous before you see him, and hearing about his date made you curious, not jealous. That's friendship, and a good one.
People sometimes talk themselves into a crush because a friendship is so comfortable that it seems like it ought to be more. It doesn't have to be. If the feeling ever does change, you'll notice. You won't need a quiz.
Your result
No, not really
You've been trying to like him.
- Low energy about plans
- Hard to name what you like
- Relief when he's busy
Your answers point one way. You don't think about him much, you can't easily say what you like about him, and the thought of him confessing made you feel cornered. That isn't a slow-burning crush. It's a no.
Maybe he's nice, maybe your friends think you'd be great together, maybe you just feel you should like someone. None of those is a reason. You're allowed to not be interested in a perfectly decent person. If he's keen, it's kinder to be clear sooner.
Why it’s hard to tell if you like someone
You’d think you’d just know. But feelings get tangled up with other things: being lonely, being flattered, your friends insisting you two would be cute, or a friendship so comfortable it seems like it should turn into something. Any of those can look like a crush from the inside.
This quiz tries to pull those apart. It doesn’t ask whether he’s good-looking or whether you have things in common. It asks how you react: what your body does when he texts, who you want to tell good news to, how you felt when he mentioned someone else.
The four results
- Yes, you like him: the feelings are about him specifically.
- You like the attention: you enjoy being wanted more than you want him.
- You like him as a friend: warm, comfortable, no spark.
- No, not really: you’ve been trying to talk yourself into it.
Signs you actually like him
Three questions in this quiz matter more than the rest, and you can ask yourself them any time. First, jealousy: does the thought of him dating someone else hurt, or is it just interesting? Second, detail: can you name specific things you like about him, or only general ones like “he’s nice”? Third, the future: when you picture next year, is he clearly in it?
If the answers are hurt, specific and yes, you probably don’t need me to tell you the result.
What this quiz can’t do
It can’t tell you whether he likes you back, and it can’t tell you whether he’s good for you. Liking someone and that person being right for you are separate questions. Whatever result you get, pay attention to how he treats you and how you feel after spending time with him. If you usually come away feeling small or anxious, that matters more than any butterflies.
How it’s scored
Eight questions, one point per answer, and the result with the most points wins. Your answers aren’t saved or sent anywhere, so you can be completely honest. If you get a result you don’t like, notice that reaction. Being disappointed by “as a friend” tells you something too.
